I just got done reading a blog about “who pays” for what in a wedding, and I just had a panic attack, and I’m currently not a bride.  No wonder formally sweet caring women turn into crazy, eye popping, hair pulling bridezillas. I just about turned into one reading the list. The joy of planning your wedding comes with many highs and lows but delegating who is supposed to throw money around like a rapper in a lil’Wayne music video shouldn’t be one of them.  Honestly…GIVE ME A BREAK! Or more accurately give you a break!This could be you

Here’s the numerical break down of items that each party is supposedly supposed to take care of:

Bride: 9 items

Bride’s family: 26 items

Groom: 17 items

Groom’s family: 9 items

And let me tell you this isn’t including bachelorette/bachelor parties or showers.   They also mention that the party that pays the most should have the most “say” in the wedding.  Weeeeeel, I’m not so sure about that, just because you have money doesn’t mean you have taste, and just because you don’t have money doesn’t mean you don’t have a wanted opinion(I’m currently giving you my opinion and I have no way to pay for your wedding).

I think what it should come down to so you don’t end up sounding like a ________is this: Ask your  parents to tell you how much they can give you and you decide how much you and your significant other can afford and go from there. Of course there are the special items like your wedding dress that may not be part of the whole budget or maybe it will.  But for the most part money thrown in a pool is much better than listing out what each party should pay for and weighing everyone’s opinion (that matter to you) is better than giving one person with the most money more say.   Take a breath and a drink, that actually might be personal advice for myself since I got so worked up over this.

 

Cheers,