I’ve been obsessed lately with Pandora and Spotify at work, wearing headphones all day long to drown out everyone and everything and it made me think about how music can transform moods, alter atmospheres and bring back memories.  This lead me to think about my own wedding and the music I chose to play at my reception.

At my wedding I cared very little about most of the details, but I had very strong opinions about what I didn’t want, specifically when it came to the music at my reception. When I spoke with our wedding DJ (who, ironically, was a Complete Music DJ and is now a coworker) I said the following:

I don’t want rap.

I don’t want country.

I don’t want pop music.

WELL WHAT THE HELL WAS LEFT?  Not much. I wanted old school Frank Sinatra played during dinner and that’s all I knew. I also knew I didn’t want a Father Daughter dance; I didn’t want to cry, I didn’t want to have that amazing special moment between a Father and a Daughter and have everyone acknowledging that I was leaving my dad for a husband. I also didn’t want the traditional ice-break reception songs; “MY WEDDING” was too elegant to have people doing “stupid” ice breakers.  My poor DJ, I left him with nothing and he couldn’t get me to budge.  He didn’t force the issue but he tried to tell me it might work to the benefit of everyone to have a little fun and let loose. NOPE, I wouldn’t budge… Until, of course, there I was looking around at my reception wondering what was missing. Well it was all the stupid fun parts of a wedding, the nerdy electric slide with the goofy impromptu dance moves. The laughter and lightheartedness of being silly with ridiculous music. I was denying my guests their moment to let loose, reminisce and just be re-donk-ulous.  Luckily I noticed and went immediately to my DJ to help fix what I did… Cue the ice breaker of the century: ICE ICE BABY and then BAM! People took to the dance floor like white on rice.

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The whole point of this rant is this:  you may not know exactly what you DO want, but spelling out every little thing you think you DON’T want may not be the best approach either.  If you find yourself getting too caught up with the DON’T’s  just remember If there’s a problem, Yo, I’ll solve it  check out the hook while my DJ revolves it.