New Years is fast approaching and people will be scrambling  to make a list of resolutions that they will be destined to fail miserably at. I know I sound like I’m being a pessimist but in this instance I’d like to think of myself as a realist.

I mean honestly let’s look at the top 10 resolutions before I begin the breakdown:

1. lose weight

2. drink less alcohol (hahaha…really?!)

3. Get a better education

4. Get a better job

5. Get Fit

6. Manage Debt

7. Quit smoking

8. Save money

9. take a vacation

10. volunteer

These are GREAT resolutions, but don’t you find it almost comical that the night before we’re about to start any of these we go out and drink and eat ourselves to the point of oblivion? I don’t know about you but when I wake up from a night of drinking the last thing I’m thinking about is: eating healthy, working out,  and for you smokers..I’m 110% positive you’re reaching for a smoke ASAP.  But I’m sure at that moment we all are thinking that drinking less is the best New Year’s resolution we have ever come up with in our lives…at least until the next weekend of course. So there we are the first day of the new year and we’re telling ourselves that tomorrow will be the beginning of the new and improved us.  We’re already negotiating with the new year!

It’s really not our fault though, we are overachievers we don’t pick just one goal we pick all ten. And I don’t know about you but when I’m doing something goal oriented I want a reward system in place. But if you look up at that list above all the usual ways I reward myself I can’t do..no drinking, no eating yummies, no shopping. So why the hell am I doing this? It’s more like torture and I’ve set myself up for failure and honestly will I be a better person? Probably not.

Now if we had an end goal in mind…i.e. a wedding date, I feel confident that anything can be achieved. Never underestimate a bride on a mission. But a bride is focused, her eye is on the prize and it’s walking down that aisle making sure she has the best damn wedding she possibly can and looking the best she ever has in her life. I mean when 200 pairs of eyes are on you, you’re in it to win it. Example, I went on a carb free diet for four months, and I never ate more than 20 carbs a day (that’s like one piece of toast) I have never been able to get that determination back and have no desire to, because I had never been that angry at the world before in my life. Everyone was grateful when carbs came back into my life.

The only resolutions I won’t knock are the one’s that involve helping people, because in helping others you truly help yourself (intrinsically selfish…damn it) But other than that why waste  your time and energy making new years resolutions? You’re probably awesome the way you are and by God people like you!

 

Cheers,

 

I just got done reading a blog about “who pays” for what in a wedding, and I just had a panic attack, and I’m currently not a bride.  No wonder formally sweet caring women turn into crazy, eye popping, hair pulling bridezillas. I just about turned into one reading the list. The joy of planning your wedding comes with many highs and lows but delegating who is supposed to throw money around like a rapper in a lil’Wayne music video shouldn’t be one of them.  Honestly…GIVE ME A BREAK! Or more accurately give you a break!This could be you

Here’s the numerical break down of items that each party is supposedly supposed to take care of:

Bride: 9 items

Bride’s family: 26 items

Groom: 17 items

Groom’s family: 9 items

And let me tell you this isn’t including bachelorette/bachelor parties or showers.   They also mention that the party that pays the most should have the most “say” in the wedding.  Weeeeeel, I’m not so sure about that, just because you have money doesn’t mean you have taste, and just because you don’t have money doesn’t mean you don’t have a wanted opinion(I’m currently giving you my opinion and I have no way to pay for your wedding).

I think what it should come down to so you don’t end up sounding like a ________is this: Ask your  parents to tell you how much they can give you and you decide how much you and your significant other can afford and go from there. Of course there are the special items like your wedding dress that may not be part of the whole budget or maybe it will.  But for the most part money thrown in a pool is much better than listing out what each party should pay for and weighing everyone’s opinion (that matter to you) is better than giving one person with the most money more say.   Take a breath and a drink, that actually might be personal advice for myself since I got so worked up over this.

 

Cheers,